Do you think ALL adoptee’s feel the SAME about their adoption in terms of loss?
No doubt there is an initial loss of being separated from the natural family. But do you expect that all adoptee’s are going to feel the same level of loss?
What about those who are raised without secrets and lies or in open adoption? Is it possible for some to have a healthier outlook on their adoption than others? By “healthier” I mean more positive outlook and self-esteem and at peace with their adoption circumstances. I agree that it’s not healthy to “stuff” feelings. But is it assumed that adoptee’s who claim to be “not bitter” do that?