I have an international adoption (but non-transracial) related question. We are Korean-American PAPs waiting for a referral. If we receive a referral for a Korean child with a name given by any biological family member, we have decided to DEFINITELY keep that name for the child. However, we initially decided that if the family refused or didn’t given a name, and the social worker or agency employee just assigned a name, we weren’t going to keep it.
I read one commentary by an adult adoptee (or maybe her AP) that she was upset that her APs changed the name given by the social worker. She felt it was her ONLY link to her birth culture, and her APs removed it. In our case, our child will be raised with LOTS of Korean language, culture, history, community, travel to Korea, etc. since it’s our heritage as well. We live that way, regardless of adoption or not. So, our child will have many links to their heritage than just a name. Also, naming a child in Korea (at least traditionally) is important, as you pick each syllable based on meaning or family patterns. So, rather than just a random name selected by a social worker to make identification easier, we reasoned that it would better to give a personalized Korean name to the child.
Now my question is: in this type of specific case, do you think when the child is older that he/she would appreciate, be indifferent, or resent the fact that his/her (social worker assigned) name was changed? Thank you!