What will you tell your children about being a transracial adoptee?

My grown children are part of the first generation of children born to the Korean adoptee diaspora, and as mixed-race children, they too have issues of race to deal with, yet without a tribe to identify with. I speak with other adoptees with young children and much of their own impetus for grappling with their own identity issues is to better prepare their children for the world in which we were placed in. What, transracial adoptees, will you tell your children about race as an issue? How will you help them cope with their inherited “other” status?

2 thoughts on “What will you tell your children about being a transracial adoptee?

  1. My son is 20 years old, and he says he never had a problem with racism. He has a great sense of self. Culturally it is pretty diverse in the Pacific Northwest. My daughter is in middle school and 49% of her school are minorities so she fits right in. I think it is more important for the child to have a strong sense of self and self-confidence then having the best math program in the district. People who have self-confidence, strength, drive and a great attitude makes important changes in the world.

  2. I told my daughter when she asked why I didn’t look like her grandmother (my mom). I think she was around 4. I simply told her that I was born in Korea and the mom who had me in her belly couldn’t keep me because she was poor so she put me in an orphanage and then I came to the United States. Simple as that. And she knows why my skin is brown too! In 2nd grade she had to turn in a recipe that reflected the family culture. Well, let’s see. My husband is of German Dutch descent but he doesn’t have any real interest in that culture so we went with mine! Since I love Korean food we turned in a recipe for green onion pancake. She knows she is a melting pot and I’m glad we can talk about it. She was able to grasp what I told her without confusion.

Adoptees, what do you think? We welcome your replies!

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