We currently live in Portugal (we are US citizens) and have been researching adopting in Portugal. There are orphanages here and the children receive placement with Nationals first if there is availability. I came across your website and found it very different from the majority of the blogs/websites and the view point very interesting. We want one more child (we have two boys) and since we are unable to have them we have turned to adoption. My husband is concerned the adopted child would never feel part of our family, but I think it is the family who sets the tone and they would be our family. As a network of adoptees I am asking you to consider the options and your view on when you feel adoption is appropriate and/or it is always going to fail?