This was in the search phrase list today. This comes on the heels of a post over at The Adopted Ones, as well as our own item on search phrases. Add to this the list of so-called “disrupted adoptions”, and their celebration (yes, celebration) in the mainstream media.
I want to expand on this, and get the opinion of adoptees here. What does this question reveal, especially in terms of it never being asked/stated about biological children (“Oh, him? He’s a failed biological child.”)? Why should we not be able to ask the question in reverse: “They are failures as adoptive parents”?
What does it mean that the idea of our “failure” is built-in to the adoption process itself? How does this thought process transfer through to the relationship of adopted child to adoptive family?
Expand/tangent as you see fit….