We, adoptees, cannot force P/APs to listen to what we have to say. We can remark, on the other hand, how much what we have to say disturbs the house of cards that represents the mythologies built up around adoption. How many of us have been erased from discussions at such web sites as Canada Adopts, Adoptive Families Circle, City Data Forum, etc.?
How many stories on this web site refer to the cajoling, condemning, dismissive, and rejecting comments we not only grew up with but have to deal with when we dare raise our voices?
Many web sites and discussion boards for adoptees were the result, and even there, we often find an “undercurrent” that demands some kind of “equivalence” be given to the dominant discourse concerning adoption.
My question is rhetorical, but I welcome responses. Has the discussion of the adoptee point of view at this web site, Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change, Land of a Gazillion Adoptees, etc. simply become a kind of “infotainment” for P/APs that lets them off the hook yet again?
Are we barking up the wrong tree? Would it be better to address those without the luxury and privilege of access to this kind of discussion that perhaps only strokes and amplifies a P/AP sense of entitlement?