As a reunited adoptee I post this to create some needed awareness to myself and my fellow adoptees who also have reunited with birth family to please be conscious of your fb posts, messages and comments in general to other adoptees online or IRL who have not found/ been found by their family.
I just read a fb post stating that ‘every picture I receive of my [Korean mother] is like I won the lottery’. Sharing your happiness that you found your mother is understandable, but repeatedly ‘bragging’ to all the adoptees, knowing so many are not able to find their family, is insensitive and if intentional- hurtful and cruel. This is something that I have unintentionally done simply in general conversation without thinking, not as a specific post/statement blasted across social media, but the effect was still the same. It was very hurtful nevertheless. Winning the lottery in finding birth family is not something any of us can control. This is a Highly Sensitive issue and reunited adoptees need to tread gently in this area.
Feel free to expand on this topic with any personal situations/ interactions that you are willing to share and any ways to deal with this delicate issue that cuts to the very core of many adoptees pain and loss. How do we handle our reunions, and how do we react to the “luck” of others in this regard?