Deliberately wounding new generations

I was struck reading the comment quoted below. This person, who goes by StraightGrandmother, is fine with donor-conceived offspring never having access to their “donor’s” identity even when that ignorance might injure them. Values like hers are common in adoption practice too. I can still find adopters writing in public forums that they chose international […]

Fantasy and History

Maybe the better word is fabrication and history because history has a natural dose of fantasy.  Every history involves the imagination. History includes specific information that is often at question for adoptees.  Reports from social workers or agencies may be accurate or not, truthful or not. Place of birth, stories about parents may or may […]

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What’s Your Adoption “Fantasy”?

Lately I’ve been going on lots about the different kinds of stories I’ve entertained about the “truth” of my adoption. As adoptees, I suspect it is particularly common, perhaps even inevitable, to on the one hand adopt a skeptical attitude about what stories we are told and/or to project the stories we’d “prefer” (even if […]

Why were we “relinquished”?

I put “relinquished” because not everyone was…some were stolen, others abandoned, some lost?  I ask because there are many reasons, many causes for our path leading to adoption.  My own cause for becoming vulnerable to adoption lay in new circumstances and old roots.  There was something stemming from modern circumstances and things arising from ancient […]

Adoptees as non-citizens.

In another item we were discussing adoptees as a “new species” and this got me thinking about the previous item concerning obtaining citizenship for adoptees. Over at AAAC there is a minor discussion about passports, and the inability of domestic adoptees to obtain federal recognition as citizens based on the practice on the state level […]

Reincarnation and human nature

I find that being a transracial adopted person, with international roots, has not hurt thinking in a ways beyond local norms.  My adoptive parents were Episcopal Christians and I remain an Episcopal Christian (in fact am an Episcopal priest), but they were a little upset that I was reading what I was and asking about […]