I was struck reading the comment quoted below. This person, who goes by StraightGrandmother, is fine with donor-conceived offspring never having access to their “donor’s” identity even when that ignorance might injure them. Values like hers are common in adoption practice too. I can still find adopters writing in public forums that they chose international adoption in order to prevent their adoptees from discovering or being discovered by their first parents. Here is what StraightGrandmother wrote:
“This is they [sic] way I look at it, you may never know your sperm donor or egg donor and you just have to deal with it. None of us have perfect lives either. There are things about my past I wish were different but do I let that ruin my life? Do I obsess over them, or do I keep a stiff upper lip and carry on? Again we all have our cross to bear, just get on with life. This is going to be a part of your life that is different then most everybody else. If your birth mother, if adopted, or your egg donor wants to make contact with you there are many places on the internet for them to do that, until then love your real parents and move on. Life ain’t perfect…”
What does it say when an ordinary member of our society still wants to allow practices that provide less than optimal conditions for the development of the future generation (which society has already done for decades)?