Over the years I’ve been cataloguing blogs of adoptive parents who in any way mention dolls. For example, here is a site [link] where the adoptive mother is looking to purchase an “Asian” doll (whatever that even means) for the VietNamese girl currently in her care. Another [link] allows a “mother” (scare quotation marks theirs) […]
Monthly Archives: November 2012
There has been a lot of discussion recently about identity, and how many identities we, as adoptees, may have or claim. Identities develop through a variety of mechanisms that include where and how we were raised, the cultural activities or events we were introduced to and/or chose to follow and how comfortable we are with […]
For the sake of brevity, I posted the bulk of what I want to ask here over here. The summary version might be: whether the “worldview” of a child (adopted or not) fundamentally agrees or disagrees with the “worldview” of that child’s parent is a central determinant whether one’s childhood (adopted or not) is deemed […]
I’m fascinated by reunion stories. Primarily because adoptees in reunion are privy to the larger account of what creates orphans than the simple beneficient accounts we are told are the reasons. Having had the privilege to edit many adoptee reunion stories and interview many adoptees about their reunions, I am struck by the truths that […]
This question (superfluous punctuation included) was in our hits based on search phrases. I thought it made for a good question: Why do adoptees cut off contact??????????? [Interpret as you wish.]
I was talking to a former student of mine who has taken to traveling through South Asia. This time around, she was heading to Nepal, and she met a man there who was formerly working in Iraq. She asked why he had to return, and he replied that after the U.S. invasion, much of the […]
In a recent post on [Birth Mother,] First Mother Forum, I was struck by the repeated use of the word “lottery” in the quotations used in the post as well as in the comments. What does it mean to say adoption (or foster care) is a “lottery”? And what does it mean to imply that […]
As an older adoptee, who didn’t address her own adoptee issues, who wasn’t aware of adoptee community and whose grown children also did not benefit from that knowledge and support base, I am very cognizant of all the adoptees who are now raising children of their own. Most of these children of adoptees are bi-racial […]
Hello TRE Readers. I am Morgan Pearson and am a new contributor here. I believe the things that hurt the most are the things that need to be talked about the most. For me what hurts the most is my adoption. When we make a subject taboo all we’re really doing is making it hard […]
A transracially, transnationally adoptive parent, upon reading my thoughts on the historical and social reasons we Korean adoptees were sent abroad for adoption, responded by telling me that in Australia (paraphrasing here) society has gone to hell because of single moms on welfare breeding feral children, and that maybe Korea just doesn’t want to follow […]
A friend in the City treated me to a ticket to go see Edward Albee’s Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? which is currently on Broadway at the Shubert Theater. I was familiar with the movie of course, and the theme of infertility intrigued me on this second view because of my heightened sensitivity to this […]
I was visiting with my brother and his family and we went out to a “Chinese” restaurant chain for lunch. As we were dealing with the quasi-Asian menu (Pad Thai in a Chinese restaurant?) a woman walked by with the child now in her care. The girl was from China, and the mother was wearing […]
Both adoption and donor conception practices produce children whose parents (or at least one of the parents) are social constructs. Nature is removed from the relationship and replaced with legal forms. For adoptees, the courts assign adults who in all respects are intended to become full and sole parents. They are creations of law. For […]
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