Winter is here and for me so is a “spring” semester of college. It’s kind of exciting, but colleges are crawling with Asians! And I don’t mean other adoptees. I mean Asians with Asian parents, with Asian last names, who can look right at me and know I’m American. Or at least it feels like […]
For some reason one of the Saudi channels on my pirate-satellite-cable service keeps showing the horrid movie Australia with Nicole Kidman and Hugh Jackman. I find that their presence in the movie (as adoptive parents) makes it doubly offensive, especially as concerns the destruction of the Aboriginal population via cultural re-education and adoption. I realized […]
Over here, I pointed to the inexplicable connections with food, other cultures, etc, we can feel as adoptees. This can be where supposedly scientific research comes in to provide a genetic link or some deep, prelingual connection with the womb where we gestated, or where religion comes in to say something about divine providence or […]
Is it possible I like whiskey because my biological parents were Irish? Do I have a greater propensity to speak Romanian because I overheard it in the womb (or even because my mother was Romanian)? Previously (here and here), I asked what kind of narratives we choose (when we choose) to tell ourselves about our […]
This was in today’s search phrases: …wearing items that identify an individual with a culture outside his or her adoptive country slows down the assimilation process…” God forbid we wish to slow down assimilation. Question open to interpretation, but as a starting point, do you “wear items” that identity with your original culture?
From another post not on TRE, written by an adoptee, I was told: We know that much of who we are today was created in the womb. We know that mother and child are a single entity, profoundly connected physiologically, emotionally and spiritually — even through early infancy. A baby does not understand that he […]
From another site, an adoptee seemed to overgeneralize that adoptees become adept at smiling through pain. I addressed that one way here. And while I make an effort to not merely was autobiographical when I post, I have to say this “smiling through pain” business gets me in a very personal way, and it is […]
In a well-intended, adoptee-written post elsewhere, the author describes some of the characteristic effects on the child who is torn from her or his site of initial gestation. Directing a question to nonadoptees, with an implicit comparison to adoptees, the writer asks: “Did you ever smile and act happy to hide your grief? ¶ Of […]
Recently, I have been editing a book written a couple of years ago by myself and a (non-adopted) co-author (more details here). It features the circumstance of two, otherwise, unrelated adoptees. Written before I was better informed about adoption, the book enthusiastically contrasts a “good” adoptee (the older sister) with a “bad” adoptee (a younger […]
Recently, I have been editing a book written a couple of years ago by myself and a (non-adopted) co-author. The two main characters are a sister and brother non-blood-related pair of adoptees (four years apart in age). The primary arc of the narrative concerns how the older sister arrives finally at the point of weaning […]
This comment came in on the RAD discussion, and I thought it expanded nicely into a topic of discussion on its own: Got to your Twitter feed somehow and have been reading some of your articles and wanted to share something that I guess is not necessarily on topic, some points resonated with me. I […]
Over at Sumeia Williams’ great blog Ethnically Incorrect Daughter [ link ], there is an item discussing the case of Heidi Bubb, and the documentary that was made about her return as on adoptee to Viet Nam, Daughter From Da Nang. In response to something I posted there ages ago came this response: You are […]
This was a question listed in the search engine hits for the web site. Open to interpretation; feel free to answer as you wish. Personally, I’m curious to know: Where do we think such a question might come from, and what does it mean to ask such a question, and/or to research it?
I recently stumbled across a real-estate listing for my old apartment on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, with an asking price of $4,000 a month, which is double the rent my sister and I were paying when it was still rent-stabilized many years ago, and we were paying 50% of our income toward the […]
I’d like to touch back on to two discussions we’ve had so far, one on nature vs. nurture as posited by Snow Leopard, and the other one having to do with Russian adoptions, and the idea of a second-best race-based adoption, i.e., one that does not (seemingly) require those adopting from having to mythologize their […]