In a previous post, I asked what strategies we have discovered for addressing those sorts of occasions when we find ourselves face-to-face with with people expressing “opinions” (they almost always call them opinions) that dehumanize, wound, or reprise in the present patterns of abuse associated with our experience of adoption that occurred in the past. […]
In reading some of the posts on birthdays, in experiencing as a result some of my own vast, unexpected sadness behind that topic as well as reading it in others, I saw how the trauma expressed, though it references and refers to the past, seems pointedly to occur in the present. This makes me suspect […]
From the phrase list of searches that led to the site. Analyze/comment/reply at will.
(to the tune of “America the Beautiful”) O ugliness for specious lies, for endless waves of pain, for purple’s bruise and blackened eyes above a fruitless plaint …. America! America! god shat his grace on thee and crowned a hood’s false justice good from sea to shaming sea. O ugliness for grim-pulled feet a white […]
Now that the crowdfunding craze has caught up with adoption, it is normal within adoption mediation to talk about “sticker shock” concerning the price of adopting children. I realize that just once I would like to see an article that discusses our shock at how much we set our adoptive parents back. In my case, […]
The controversy over Jerzy Kosinski’s novel The Painted Bird remains, but for me the central image of the novel still holds: A birdcatcher paints one of his flock in bright colors; seen as foreign by the other birds, it is attacked and killed. This is the image that occurred to me after reading a news […]
When I programmed the scripts that automatically take new posts and comments here and send them to the Twitter account, I also (on a whim) created a “bot” that searches on particular phrases and retweets them to an account called “Adoption Honesty“. I am intrigued by a lot of what gets pulled, but every once […]
“There’s a world waiting for you,” sang Nina Simone in “Young, Gifted, and Black.” We know that Simone longed to be part of the musical academy, but was rejected by the Curtis Institute of Music for the fact of her race. This narrative of “fitting in”, or attempting to fit in to the dominant mode […]