I found an article online: Scientists have found that memories may be passed down through generations in our DNA: New research from Emory University School of Medicine, in Atlanta, has shown that it is possible for some information to be inherited biologically through chemical changes that occur in DNA. During the tests they learned that […]
This tweet recently appeared on Twitter: I WILL constantly #judge you if you #adopt a child and constantly refer to them as: “my #black #adopted child”. It was followed up by the above question. I’ll leave it open to your interpretation and response.
In a separate post, I mentioned tangentially: I was writing up my piece on trauma because of a conversation with a friend and fellow adoptee; we were comparing stress symptoms, and discussing the health effects of stress. There is something disturbing in the idea of a body in a constant state of “fight or flight”, […]
Have you ever used or contemplated using one of the DNA services that promises to find ancestors/relatives, such as 23AndMe? Why or why not? What changes in terms of your own understanding of adoption when you think about yourself on this, the genetic level? Expand at will….
Over the past couple of days, Thomas Jefferson has been popping up here [link] and there [link], and in reading the history concerning the man now being revisited in ways that are not pleasing to those who see him in a particular mythological light, I started thinking about the following (rhetorical and naive) question. In […]
Last night I made the unfortunate decision to watch the last 15 minutes of the movie Orphan which was showing on one of the Gulf satellite stations. By coincidence, this was in the search phrases this morning. My punishment perhaps—moreso than the movie in and of itself? In any case, the question is open for […]
I came across a list of books targeting children as the audience with the subject being transracial adoption [link]. Two questions. Can you now imagine or consider that these might have been helpful/hurtful reading as a child? What books did you turn to (consciously or not-so) to help you deal with your adoption and/or these […]
I was always struck by the lyrics (and title) of the Talking Head’s song Seen and Not Seen [link]: He would see faces in movies, on T.V., in magazines, and in books / He thought that some of these faces might be right for him / And through the years, by keeping an ideal facial […]
I’ve argued that adoption is a “leap-frogging” of other assimilation processes, notably immigration. What does it mean when adoption is given precedence over and favored above such other processes? I read today that the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption publishes a yearly list of “Adoption-friendly workplaces”, such as Cornell University [link], whose web site proudly […]
In a previous question [link] I asked whether you as an adoptee would repatriate yourself if your place of birth afforded you some kind of re-entry to the country, language, culture, etc. Girl4708 replied at the time: The power differential on a smaller scale doesn’t change: the haves will always overpower the have-nots. As an […]
From the phrase list of searches that led to the site. Analyze/comment/reply at will.
Now that the crowdfunding craze has caught up with adoption, it is normal within adoption mediation to talk about “sticker shock” concerning the price of adopting children. I realize that just once I would like to see an article that discusses our shock at how much we set our adoptive parents back. In my case, […]
The controversy over Jerzy Kosinski’s novel The Painted Bird remains, but for me the central image of the novel still holds: A birdcatcher paints one of his flock in bright colors; seen as foreign by the other birds, it is attacked and killed. This is the image that occurred to me after reading a news […]
When I programmed the scripts that automatically take new posts and comments here and send them to the Twitter account, I also (on a whim) created a “bot” that searches on particular phrases and retweets them to an account called “Adoption Honesty“. I am intrigued by a lot of what gets pulled, but every once […]
“There’s a world waiting for you,” sang Nina Simone in “Young, Gifted, and Black.” We know that Simone longed to be part of the musical academy, but was rejected by the Curtis Institute of Music for the fact of her race. This narrative of “fitting in”, or attempting to fit in to the dominant mode […]