Good Adoptee, Bad Adoptee?

Recently, I have been editing a book written a couple of years ago by myself and a (non-adopted) co-author (more details here). It features the circumstance of two, otherwise, unrelated adoptees. Written before I was better informed about adoption, the book enthusiastically contrasts a “good” adoptee (the older sister) with a “bad” adoptee (a younger […]

When Do Adoptees Become Rescuers Too?

Recently, I have been editing a book written a couple of years ago by myself and a (non-adopted) co-author. The two main characters are a sister and brother non-blood-related pair of adoptees (four years apart in age). The primary arc of the narrative concerns how the older sister arrives finally at the point of weaning […]

Ending Nature & Nurture: Adoptee Opinion Whether Adoptions Are “Good” or “Bad”

For the sake of brevity, I posted the bulk of what I want to ask here over here. The summary version might be: whether the “worldview” of a child (adopted or not) fundamentally agrees or disagrees with the “worldview” of that child’s parent is a central determinant whether one’s childhood (adopted or not) is deemed […]

What’s Your Adoption “Fantasy”?

Lately I’ve been going on lots about the different kinds of stories I’ve entertained about the “truth” of my adoption. As adoptees, I suspect it is particularly common, perhaps even inevitable, to on the one hand adopt a skeptical attitude about what stories we are told and/or to project the stories we’d “prefer” (even if […]

Alternatives to “Polite Conversations”

Some time ago (24 August 2011), Daniel posed the question here: One of the key aspects of reframing the discussion and allowing our voice to be heard is to not speak in the defensive. Since this is expected, even in the question-and-answer format, speaking up and out without necessarily answering anyone becomes very important. Beyond […]

Adoption/Orphan Narrative in Moonrise Kingdom

Someone recently treated me to the new Wes Anderson movie Moonrise Kingdom, which apparently has been getting all kinds of raves–so that’s a bad sign already. (I’m signalling my take on the movie already; I can’t recommend it too little). And now, I’m going to shamelessly ruin most of the plot for you. Here goes: […]