The complexity of adoptive parents

Adoption is complex.  All of it.  And sometimes we, as adoptees, don’t fully understand how complex it is until we lose our adoptive parents.  Because many times, our adoptive parents, good or bad, are the only people who moored us to existence.

Good Adoptee, Bad Adoptee?

Recently, I have been editing a book written a couple of years ago by myself and a (non-adopted) co-author (more details here). It features the circumstance of two, otherwise, unrelated adoptees. Written before I was better informed about adoption, the book enthusiastically contrasts a “good” adoptee (the older sister) with a “bad” adoptee (a younger […]

Mothers reclaim their children: The end of adoption.

I found this story on the AP wire about a Guatamala judge demanding the return of an adopted child in the States inspiring, because it answers for me the question “how might adoption end”? I’ve stated it often, in piques of hyperbole, that mothers worldwide should be empowered to take their children back, and now […]